Hmmmm as an update it seems it is working. This post is number one in google monster for “duplicate ranking issue” :-) AND NOT THE HOME PAGE!!!

The All in one SEO helps preset the title tag for your posts [which you can change to include your main keyword(s)]

The sitemap plugin can assign priority to the posts over the home page, over the archives, over the category.

I think the setting of priorities on the sitemap plugin is the key, but since messing with it, all my posts somehow cause my home page to rank for terms, instead of the posts themselves… which was not the case before I started screwing around with those two plugins…
Most blogs I see have their posts rank for the title of the post…. not mine anymore..

But since reducin the value of the home page to like 0.2 and told it to crawl the hompage weekly and the posts daily, it seems that’s causing the post to show up first now…. I may have solved it!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let’s see if it holds true.